Letters to Charles IV

Charles,

My letters so far has been dealing on the subject of relationships and where they may lead you. Many of them were negative, as up to now I wished to relate to you how well I understand your pain right now. I couldn’t say that I experienced the same level of unfairness in relationships, but in essence I understand. Whoever tells you that life is fair, shoot them. Not literally, of course.

Relationships, however, aren’t all bad. Relationships can be very filfilling, and in my opinion, the relationships we nurture is a reflection on the value of the lives we live. I personally think that when we are judged one day, a lot of our fate will depend on the relationships we had.

I am not one in the position of giving you advice in choosing your relationships, however, I will let you in on how I choose mine. Again, choice. We always have a choice. I will try to define the relationships I deem important in life.

1. Your relationship with yourself.
2. Your relationship with your folks.
3. Your relationship with friends.
4. Your relationship with your life partner.
5. Your relationship with God.

I bet you may be a it surprised to see that a relationship with yourself is right at the top of my list. It may also interrest you to see that your relationship with a life partner only slots in in position four. Note that this list is not necesarrily in order of importance – it is more or less in the chronological order of life, with one exception.

I am going to end this letter here, as the next one is a chapter by itself.

Until then, be true to yourself.

Mr. v.d. M