Letters to Charles III
Charles,
Another couple of results of heartache, and many other things, are anger and resentment.
Anger, to a healthy extent, is good. Anger is an emotion which may fuel our drive to change a situation - for the better, but all too often, for the worse.
Anger in overdrive turns to rage - the times you see red, and you do not feel entirely responsible for what you say or do... but remember: You have a choice. You decide whether your anger turns to rage.
In the Bible we often read that God was angry. We never read that He raged. So, if God can be angry, so can we. He made us in His image, after all. If He feels He shouldn't rage, then neither should we.
Resentment is a useless emotion, and no good ever came from it. In my life I have known my fair share of resentment, until I realised that it was destoying me. Resentment leads to hate and bitterness. To give you an example: I felt for a long time that my parents treated me different as my brother. Of course they did, we are two different individuals and so they should have. I always felt they were more lenient towards him, more tolerant, and I admit that even now sometimes, I feel that they love him more than they love me. He is, after all, the glamorous doctor and I am the humble teacher. The resentment had settled so deep that I started feeling it towards my brother too.
That was when I realised that resentment is pretty much like a black hole - it will suck in everything it can and never fill up. It is a hunger that could never be satisfied.
Resentment has a couple of enemies. The first enemy is REASON. By reasoning, thinking about the matters that causes you to resent people, you could fill the hole. However, better than reason, is to confront the matter directly with the people involved. Realise that not all people are reasonable, but the key to resolving these is this: Mutual understanding. You, to destroy your resentment towards someone is to understand both your perspectives.
Enough for now. Keep peace in your heart.
Mr. v.d. M
Another couple of results of heartache, and many other things, are anger and resentment.
Anger, to a healthy extent, is good. Anger is an emotion which may fuel our drive to change a situation - for the better, but all too often, for the worse.
Anger in overdrive turns to rage - the times you see red, and you do not feel entirely responsible for what you say or do... but remember: You have a choice. You decide whether your anger turns to rage.
In the Bible we often read that God was angry. We never read that He raged. So, if God can be angry, so can we. He made us in His image, after all. If He feels He shouldn't rage, then neither should we.
Resentment is a useless emotion, and no good ever came from it. In my life I have known my fair share of resentment, until I realised that it was destoying me. Resentment leads to hate and bitterness. To give you an example: I felt for a long time that my parents treated me different as my brother. Of course they did, we are two different individuals and so they should have. I always felt they were more lenient towards him, more tolerant, and I admit that even now sometimes, I feel that they love him more than they love me. He is, after all, the glamorous doctor and I am the humble teacher. The resentment had settled so deep that I started feeling it towards my brother too.
That was when I realised that resentment is pretty much like a black hole - it will suck in everything it can and never fill up. It is a hunger that could never be satisfied.
Resentment has a couple of enemies. The first enemy is REASON. By reasoning, thinking about the matters that causes you to resent people, you could fill the hole. However, better than reason, is to confront the matter directly with the people involved. Realise that not all people are reasonable, but the key to resolving these is this: Mutual understanding. You, to destroy your resentment towards someone is to understand both your perspectives.
Enough for now. Keep peace in your heart.
Mr. v.d. M
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